Oh hey, I’m Abby, and I’m in menopause.

It has taken me a very very long time to stand up the braveness to confess that to all of you. This can be a coming-out of types, though I want I didn’t should really feel that manner.

Why would a dietitian need to write about menopause? Straightforward. A lot of menopause includes adjustments in our our bodies, struggles with balancing well being (together with vitamin) with different life calls for, and sadly, points with physique picture. and I need to provide you with all of the straight story – contemplating that by 2025, 1.1 billion women worldwide can be menopausal. 

Society views girls as both younger and sizzling, or outdated and invisible. As a girl on the cusp of her fiftieth birthday (December sixteenth, y’all), I fall squarely into the no-woman’s land that’s midlife.

I all the time felt that revealing my age and menstrual standing, if you’ll, would present me as outdated and undesirable for each my viewers and potential collaborators. I’ve realized although that these emotions are a submission to the patriarchy and its narrative that younger is ALWAYS higher, all the time extra succesful, and all the time extra fascinating in each manner.

Screw that. I’m so finished with it.

I feel I’ve rather a lot to supply not solely with the work I do and content material I ship out into the world; I may also assist to erase the stigma and myths round menopause and the menopausal transition.

In different phrases, why conceal it, when different folks can profit from me talking out?

What’s menopause?

Menopause, for girls who haven’t undergone surgical menopause, is if you’ve gone 12 months with no interval. It will possibly take eternally to occur – I used to joke with my physician that my ovaries have been respiratory their demise rattle for years. I began perimenopause in 2012, once I was 40. I’m now 49. 

Your intervals may begin getting lighter or heavier, you may begin skipping a month right here and there, after which skipping extra typically than that (that’s what occurred to me). Throughout perimenopause, or the interval earlier than menopause, it’s possible you’ll begin having signs, like sizzling flashes and bloating.

There’s loads of poisonous positivity round menopause, and I need to keep away from that form of factor. ‘You’ll get via it!’ or, ‘suppose optimistic!’ I feel diminishes the truth that some girls have very outstanding and disruptive signs in perimenopause and menopause. 

Once I say the phrases ‘menopausal lady,’ what do you consider?

Is it somebody with gray hair?

Somebody of their 70s or older?

A girl who’s wrinkly and saggy?


Shock! Right here’s a listing of girls you may know, who’re all in menopause:

Jennifer Aniston

Jennifer Lopez

Nicole Kidman

Salma Hayek

Julia Roberts

And, fairly probably, my bestie Gwyneth Paltrow. 

Yup. Except they’re some form of miracle of nature, they’ve all gone via this variation.

Menopause isn’t all sizzling flashes and dry vag. In reality, it could be none of these issues for a few of us. It’s a brand new chapter in our lives, one which’s unfettered by worries over unintended being pregnant and whether or not you’re going to get your interval in your new white pants. It’s additionally an period that begs for us to return collectively as a sisterhood, to battle the stigma across the finish of menstruation.

Because of the patriarchy, menopause has all the time been stored within the shadows, like the ladies in it. We’ve been advised, simply by society’s attitudes, that menopause isn’t ‘attractive.’ That when you’re out of your childbearing years,  you’re not a ripe peach that’s begging to be bit into: as an alternative, you’re dried up like a prune. 


None of that’s remotely true, so let’s begin speaking about what’s actual:

Menopause isn’t shameful.

Menopausal girls – and girls on the whole – are nonetheless stunning, it doesn’t matter what age we’re. 

We’re nonetheless very important.

We aren’t prepared, and will by no means be prepared, to be put out to pasture like outdated cows. 

I, for one, am nonetheless right here, and I really feel nice. 

So, collect spherical, everybody. Right here’s what I need you to learn about menopause:

Menopause isn’t one thing that must be ‘cured.’

I do know that our tradition loves wellness treatment, however pay attention up – menopause is a very pure physiological state. The truth that your physique is altering and also you may not match into your denims anymore goes to convey out all types of scammers, promising to assist with the signs of menopause.

I’m you, *Provitalize* and your ‘thermogenic probiotics to treatment menopausal ‘muffin-top.’

Give me a break.

Read my Provitalize review here.

Vogue Journal not too long ago did an article on how menopause is lastly being observed by the wellness group. Whereas I feel that in some methods it is a good factor, it’s additionally had a darker facet. 

Menopausal girls are actually the goal for a complete new class of dietary supplements and diets just like the Galveston Food regimen (learn my put up about it right here) and something by Sara Gottfried. No, your hormones don’t ‘reset’….underneath any circumstances.

Amanda Thebe, creator of Menopocalypse, had this to say: 

All over the place you look there are menopause merchandise and diets. Entrepreneurs aren’t silly. They know that middle-aged girls have extra disposable revenue however are additionally more likely to be extra weak, even determined. Menopause can depart them feeling like they don’t acknowledge themselves, so when some savvy firm guarantees to repair what’s damaged, the pull will be sturdy. But it surely’s sleazy and unethical. Utilizing ageist and predatory adverse techniques, they promise girls the world and so they don’t appear to care that what they’re promoting isn’t grounded in any proof. They actually see us as a straightforward goal.

Infuriating, proper? We don’t have to be ‘cured,’ thanks very a lot.

Sure, menopause (and perimenopause) can have some life-disrupting signs for some girls. Sizzling flashes, mind fog, itchiness, sleep points, constipation, diarrhea, bloating are a couple of. You don’t should powerful these out – your physician could have options for these issues.

If various remedies appear to present you some aid, that is additionally good. I don’t need to low cost issues like bioidentical hormones (NOT the identical as compounded hormones) and dietary supplements fully (I typically take magnesium for sleep), however I do need to warn you that the advertising and marketing and the claims used to promote some merchandise are disingenuous and sometimes misogynistic. 

Hormones aren’t scary, however you could take the appropriate ones.

Whether or not or to not take hormones is a really private determination, which brings me to a different level – in menopause (or not), nobody factor is correct for everybody. 

Menopausal Hormone Remedy (MHT), is what we now name ‘HRT.’ Seems, we don’t should ‘exchange’ lacking hormones. 

As Jen Gunter, M.D. writes in her e-book The Menopause Manifesto, ‘HRT falsely implies that estrogen or different hormones are lacking due to a medical drawback, and the low ranges of estrogen after menopause are biologically irregular.’

I personally have discovered MHT to be useful for menopause signs, particularly for sleep and for warm flashes. Do I nonetheless get signs of menopause? For positive – however I feel they’re much less. I additionally take hormones due to their protecting impact on my coronary heart and bones, and since my threat stage is low. That’s me, however MHT for you personally is one thing to analysis and converse to your physician about. As with something, there are dangers to MHT, though possibly not as a lot because the media would love us to imagine.

For instance, as Gunter outlines in her e-book, there’s a 9 in 10,000 threat for blood clots with MHT. 

In being pregnant although, that threat is 5-20 for each 10,000 pregnancies. No one is on the market telling girls to not get pregnant due to the blood clot threat, however all of the sudden MHT is just too excessive of a threat?

The one menopause hormone remedy I’m going to warning you towards is unregulated hormones and/or pellets. These are customized compounded and are sometimes marketed as ‘safer,’ as a result of they’re ‘pure,’ which is whole BS. They’re fully unregulated and, as Amanda Thebe says, ‘you don’t have any concept when the standard of compounded hormones are, they may very well be blended with sawdust and mouse sh*t for all you already know.’


Unregulated bioidentical products have been found to have inconsistent dosage labelling that may result in customers receiving a better or decrease dose than what they want (and what’s secure). Please stick to FDA permitted merchandise.

(Read the North American Menopause Society’s position on bioidentical hormone therapy)

So far as getting phytoestrogens from meals, there’s no proof that implies that this works. In reality, phytoestrogens, whereas comparable in construction to endogenous estrogen, don’t work in the identical manner. By the identical token, according to the AICR, soy and flax don’t increase the risk for breast cancer (or any cancer), and are very wholesome, fibre-rich meals. I like to recommend together with them in your eating regimen.

You’ll have physique adjustments throughout menopause, and that’s okay.

Whereas we as girls could face stress to look younger for so long as attainable, realistically 1. that sucks and a couple of. it’s nearly inconceivable. 

Together with getting older and declining hormone ranges comes adjustments to your physique. Even with hormone remedy, I’m seeing adjustments like a thickening waist and crepey pores and skin. I’m not saying it’s a straightforward transition, both – for me, it appeared to occur in a single day.

At some point I used to be my regular self, and the subsequent day, I regarded within the mirror and was like, ‘whoa! What the heck simply occurred…aka the place did my waist go?’

It’s an adjustment to see your physique altering, however our bodies change, and that’s okay. Whereas there are a number of the reason why girls could achieve weight throughout menopause, what many people are seeing is a weight redistribution: lack of estrogen results in fats to be redistributed round our midsection.

As far as metabolism, recent research reveals that metabolic fee stays principally steady from age 20 via to age 60, at which level it begins dropping very slowly.

The place we used to imagine that menopause precipitated a slowing of the metabolism, we now know that it possible doesn’t.

Nonetheless, many ladies complain about weight achieve throughout this time and past. Once I’ve regarded intently at a few of these girls’s diets, I discovered some recurring challenges:

Alcohol consumption. I do know, I bang on and on about how girls drink an excessive amount of. However we do, and never solely are girls getting unwell and dying from alcohol-related illnesses like by no means earlier than, alcohol can be a supply of energy.

And whereas I don’t advocate calorie counting for most individuals (learn why, right here), energy nonetheless think about to weight. When you’re consuming a number of instances per week, this can be affecting your well being and your weight. So can restaurant meals. Being social is essential, however should you’re consuming takeout or restaurant meals typically, it’s possible you’ll need to reduce that again as a lot as you may. 

Food regimen hopping. On one eating regimen, off that eating regimen. On to the subsequent eating regimen, off that eating regimen. Of their bid to lose a pair kilos, it’s possible you’ll end up eating regimen hopping. However should you’re ceaselessly proscribing and within the mindset of ‘on-plan’ and ‘off-plan,’ this will gasoline compensatory overeating. It’s additionally powerful emotionally, which, let’s face it – do we actually need MORE emotional challenges right now of life? 

Most of the diets for menopausal girls serve up a principally unsustainable, joyless mixture of keto and fasting, which you don’t should submit your self to. In reality, should you encounter any eating regimen plan that’s focused to menopausal girls, I like to recommend that you just contemplate it a pink flag till confirmed in any other case (you may all the time ship me a screenshot of the eating regimen web site and I’ll check out it for you). 

Read my Galveston Diet review here

What you need to goal for is consistency, and I don’t imply ‘persistently being on a eating regimen.’ 

Base your meal off of protein and vegetation, and eat as a lot fibre as you may. Once I plan my meals, I select a vegetable, then a protein. I after all eat carbs too, as a result of I run on carbs…however complete grains and starchy greens are what I select most frequently. (Ezekiel bread is my favourite).

Additionally, goal for 25 grams of fibre per day. Cut back the variety of ultra-processed meals you eat. 

Being distracted by life conditions. Life at this age is basically, actually full for lots of us. It may be laborious to eat the way in which you need to, discover time to be lively, and cope with stress. Generally, we simply can’t keep away from this stuff. Prioritizing sleep (I do know, simpler stated than finished), saying ‘no’ to occasions and initiatives that tip the size to OVERWHELMED, and setting boundaries with individuals who make issues tougher for us will help. 

Not exercising. No, train hasn’t been proven to assist an amazing cope with weight reduction. But it surely positive can provide you an outlet for stress, in addition to hold your coronary heart and bones wholesome, and assist retain muscle mass. Even becoming train into your day could also be powerful, however your exercise doesn’t should be tremendous strenuous and even all that lengthy.

I all the time inform people who any exercise they do, over and above what they’ve been doing, is useful. 

Although menopause and menopause signs may sound scary, should you haven’t gone via it but, know that you just received’t essentially have main points.

Embrace your age and your altering physique – it is a time to attach with different girls, study what’s occurring to you, and to embark not on a mission to cease time, however to benefit from it. Use this time to attach with different girls and collaborate (and commiserate if wanted). 

There are loads of respected perimenopause and menopause sources on the market, together with Thebe and Gunter’s books. Thebe has an exhaustive checklist on her web site, which you can access here.